Here's a question: Since reading this post I've been keeping a journal of beliefs, especially those that are triggered by a strong emotional reaction. How do you change them? Most of my beliefs are my default way of seeing the world. By the time a belief has made it's presence known it's too late to change it. Said differently does anyone have any suggestions for developing new belief habits?
What are some examples of your beliefs or intuitions to record on your phone? I ask because I think I have a "simple" life and mind my own business. I generally work, eat, chat with friends and family, sleep. Thanks.
I think of beliefs as emotional positions that we have taken on, mostly unconsciously. I like your five ways. Below is another. It attempts to excavate beliefs directly with the practice of repeating questions. It's useful to both discover what our beliefs are and our rationale for holding them.
Here are the two repeating questions:
1) Tell me a belief you have.
2) What's right about holding beliefs?
You could ask yourself these questions, but it would be more fun with a practice partner. And you could do the questions sequentially -- the first one for 10 minutes, the second one for 10 minutes. Or interlaced, first then second, first then second, etc. for 15 minutes. With interlacing, the second question would change slightly to "that belief."
The purpose of the repetitions is that it tends to drill into the unconscious. The answering is done quickly and spontaneously. No figuring out a good answer. No censoring answers that don't seem to make sense in the moment. The responder just responds with no care what comes up. The asker just asks, with no reactions to the answers. And says "Thank you," after each response.
Jim, what you write about has changed my life. I do my version of your process. I'll add this about reacting. I pay close attention to when I have an especially strong reaction to an event. My reaction is what I do. The information is underneath it. Taking the time to understand it is the first step to creating change.
Your podcast with Denise Shull ep. #55 addresses the topic well.
"My goal in life is to be useful"
Such clarity, I've tried to adopt Jim's saying 💚 🥃
Here's a question: Since reading this post I've been keeping a journal of beliefs, especially those that are triggered by a strong emotional reaction. How do you change them? Most of my beliefs are my default way of seeing the world. By the time a belief has made it's presence known it's too late to change it. Said differently does anyone have any suggestions for developing new belief habits?
Don’t stop what you’re doing
Jim says "Be Useful" without one Arnold quote and yet this article is very well said.
Thank you for creating and sharing it. --Irish Cheers
What are some examples of your beliefs or intuitions to record on your phone? I ask because I think I have a "simple" life and mind my own business. I generally work, eat, chat with friends and family, sleep. Thanks.
I think of beliefs as emotional positions that we have taken on, mostly unconsciously. I like your five ways. Below is another. It attempts to excavate beliefs directly with the practice of repeating questions. It's useful to both discover what our beliefs are and our rationale for holding them.
Here are the two repeating questions:
1) Tell me a belief you have.
2) What's right about holding beliefs?
You could ask yourself these questions, but it would be more fun with a practice partner. And you could do the questions sequentially -- the first one for 10 minutes, the second one for 10 minutes. Or interlaced, first then second, first then second, etc. for 15 minutes. With interlacing, the second question would change slightly to "that belief."
The purpose of the repetitions is that it tends to drill into the unconscious. The answering is done quickly and spontaneously. No figuring out a good answer. No censoring answers that don't seem to make sense in the moment. The responder just responds with no care what comes up. The asker just asks, with no reactions to the answers. And says "Thank you," after each response.
I hope this is useful. : )
Jim, what you write about has changed my life. I do my version of your process. I'll add this about reacting. I pay close attention to when I have an especially strong reaction to an event. My reaction is what I do. The information is underneath it. Taking the time to understand it is the first step to creating change.
Your podcast with Denise Shull ep. #55 addresses the topic well.