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This is a book designed to be shared — with a friend, a family member, or anyone you know who is living with grief.
To make that easier, we’re offering our first 100 US-based readers an additional free copy, signed by Danielle, so you can pass one along while always having your own to return to.
Simply buy any edition from our website, Amazon, or any other bookstore, then email your proof of purchase and shipping address to contact@infinitebooks.com. We’ll take care of the rest.
Offer ends Friday, 8 May.
On a February morning, Danielle Crittenden’s world cleaved in two: the life before her daughter Miranda was found dead in her Brooklyn apartment, and the life after.
In this luminous memoir, Danielle maps the territory of profound loss with the clarity of a foreign correspondent filing reports from a country no parent ever wishes to visit.
With unflinching honesty and unexpected grace, she chronicles not just the shattering impact of a child’s death, but the strange afterlife of grief itself—the way it infiltrates grocery stores and social media, transforms old friendships and forges new ones, and ultimately reshapes the mourner as fundamentally as it has reshaped the world.
Here is grief in all its terrible specificity: the police call that changes everything, the surreal task of choosing a burial dress, the well-meaning friends who offer advice about “stages” that don’t exist. But here too is love in its most distilled form—a mother’s meditation on a daughter who commanded dinner tables at twelve, who once interviewed Dick Cheney with a child’s notebook, who transformed from a precocious girl into a sparkling young woman living her dreams in New York.
Danielle brings a journalist’s eye to the landscape of loss, coining the perfect term for those who try to explain grief to the grieving (“griefsplaining”), finding dark comedy in a hotel clerk’s relentless cheerfulness, and discovering that C.S. Lewis told more truth about mourning in seventy-three pages than a library of self-help books. She writes of joining what she calls “the alternative universe”—parents who have lost children—and of the terrible wisdom its members share.
Written with the narrative power that has made Danielle one of our most incisive observers of family and culture, Dispatches from Grief stands as both a singular portrait of loss and a universal exploration of love’s aftermath. It will speak to anyone who has loved deeply, lost profoundly, and wondered how to continue when continuation seems impossible.
For those walking through their own valleys of grief, this book offers not false comfort but true companionship. For those who love someone who is grieving, it provides a window into a world that can only be understood from within. And for all readers, it serves as a reminder that our time with those we love is both more precious and more precarious than we dare imagine.
Early Praise
A little masterpiece. I was pulled through in one voracious sitting, moved by every line. Dispatches from Grief joins the literary canon of great books about mourning and the search for solace.
— Tina Brown, author of The Vanity Fair Diaries and The Palace Papers
Dispatches from Grief moves with the power of a freight train over rough terrain. Danielle Crittenden makes us eyewitnesses to the hour-by-hour crawl through grief. What I will remember forever is the transformation of the griever; the steady, unpredictable process of ripping and restitching; and the resilient enormity of a mother’s love…Crittenden has been through hell, but has not emerged with empty hands.
— David Brooks, New York Times columnist and bestselling author of The Second Mountain
Danielle Crittenden’s writing is spare without being stark, her story desperate without being humorless, her attitude open-hearted without being banal. She captures kaleidoscopically what was remarkable about her daughter Miranda, weaving in the exquisite and often joyous dynamics of her family. Writing this book was an act of strength…Her words ring with truth, love, clarity, and courage.
— Andrew Solomon, National Book Award–winning author of Far from the Tree and The Noonday Demon
Having read many books about grief, I found Danielle Crittenden’s Dispatches from Grief to be something rare. After her daughter’s sudden death, she writes with raw emotion and uncommon literary skill that ultimately instructs us. We take the journey from devastation to transformation alongside her, learning—and feeling—every step of the way…What this beautiful book reminds us is that bonds of love can continue forever, but in a new way. No closure required.
— Pauline Boss, Professor Emeritus, University of Minnesota; author of Ambiguous Loss and The Myth of Closure
This beautiful book is, above all, a love story. Danielle Crittenden’s undying love for her daughter lights the way through the labyrinth of grief, making it possible for the rest of us to follow her down the dark and winding paths. It’s here that we come to meet a beautiful, brilliant girl named Miranda, whose memory her mother shepherds—capturing her wit and kindness and glamour, mixing touches of gentle humor with fathomless sorrow. A luminous and highly original memoir, Dispatches from Grief is also a final act of mothering.
— Abigail Tucker, New York Times bestselling author of The Lion in the Living Room and Mom Genes
Danielle Crittenden does something grief writers rarely do. She tells the truth. All of it. As a fellow exile in the land of grief, I found tears falling—then laughing out loud at a phrase—then that deep, coarse crying only grievers know. It was a good cry: my grief bowing to hers. Danielle has given us the gift of knowing her daughter Miranda. And then she gives us something more: how, when she was ready, she began to make Miranda’s life more important than her death. Not healed. Something other. Something that inspires rather than deadens. I am grateful to Danielle and Miranda. I am grateful for this book.
— Jan Warner, author of Grief Day by Day and founder of Grief Speaks Out
Stunning, beautiful, and true on every page, Dispatches from Grief takes us on a journey through the unimaginable heartbreak of a parent and a family. Nothing is sugarcoated; nothing is wished or reasoned away. And yet, what emerges is a portal into the most enduring realities of our lives—that all we really have is each other, that family is everything, and that memories sustain us. The most moving and important book I’ve read in years.
— Robert Kurson, New York Times bestselling author of Shadow Divers and Rocket Men
About Danielle
Danielle Crittenden is a journalist, author, and former host of the podcast The Femsplainers, known for her incisive and original commentary on women, family, and modern life. In addition to writing a popular monthly newsletter on Substack, her work has appeared in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Atlantic, and more. She is the author of four previous books, including What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman, praised by Vanity Fair as the work of "one of the most important new thinkers about women and family." Born in Toronto, she now lives in Washington, D.C. with her husband, journalist and author David Frum.
